Finding Your Happy

Our special day is right around the corner – Mother’s Day! Think brunches, flowers, homemade gifts, and hopefully some special treatment. Although, I want nothing more than to just spend Mother’s Day with the human who made me a mother. Even though I am given this opportunity on a daily basis, something just feels different on this day, something a little more special.

The past two years, my husband has offered up a day at the spa to celebrate Mother’s Day. Both times I turned him down. I know, I am crazy! But, I just want to be with my daughter and husband on this day, spending some good quality, family time.

BUT… if he wants to offer that spa day for the following weekend, you know where you can find me!

As moms, it is so easy to lose ourselves. We quickly change identities, becoming “your child’s mom,” instead of the name you were given. Working mom or not, our days revolve around our children. We wake them up, we make sure they are dressed and ready for the day, we make them breakfast, we make their lunch, we bathe them (before they can do this on their own, of course), we laugh with them, we hold them while they cry, the list goes on.

You can see how easily this pattern becomes your daily life, but where do YOU fit into this life? Yes, YOU are the one who is doing all of this for your children, but what are you doing for YOURSELF? What are you doing to make yourself happy, to fulfill your needs?

When choosing to become a mom, we know we are giving up a lot of freedom. We can no longer be selfish, choosing to do what we want and when (for the most part), but we do not have to give up everything.

I’ve said this before, and you will probably hear me say it again. We cannot make our families happy if we are not happy with ourselves. When we are happy within, we exude confidence in those feelings for our kids.

So, with Mother’s Day coming up, let’s think about the things in our lives that really make us happy. Yes, our kids and husbands, friends, extended family, careers, they all make us happy. But, what is someTHING that makes you happy? Something you would consider a treat?

It could be a day at the spa, or something as simple as sitting alone enjoying a cup of coffee. Maybe taking a walk outdoors, taking a bubble bath (with a glass of wine – Duh!), or watching an uninterrupted (key word) movie in your pjs. It is anything that brings you true happiness.

There are no rules, your “something” is whatever you want it to be. Of course, a week long trip to a tropical paradise may not be an instant option, but we can all dream!

So, I think I am going to challenge myself, and therefore, I am going to challenge you as well. This Mother’s Day season, let’s find something to do, something to fill OUR hearts, and really make us happy. Make the time to find your happiness.

In order to make this happen, you may need to work some things out, and it may not be easy. Schedules may need to change, you may need to find a sitter, your husband may need to help out, whatever it is, make it happen. You will be so glad you did.

Mother’s Day is a time to reflect on our most important, and truly rewarding job – being A MOM! Spend some extra time with your little ones, kisses and hugs galore. Make them take care of you on your special day, but don’t forget to take care of yourself too.

Celebrate the hard work you put in each and every day!

Happy Mother’s Day to you all! Please do something special for yourself, and tell us about it in the comments below!


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  • Bridgette

    So true…I think hiring a nanny to tend to my kids so it will let me be around them but not have to do anything on mother’s day sounds like a perfect plan 😂
    From one mom to another..I hope you get that spa day offer…

    May 2, 2019 at 1:17 am Reply
    • Vivian

      You bet Girl 💛!

      May 2, 2019 at 11:59 am Reply
    • Erica

      Haha! You have it all figured out Bridgette. Doing nothing, but still spending time with your kiddos… perfect plan! Happy Mother’s Day! I’ll keep you posted on that spa day!

      May 2, 2019 at 4:23 pm Reply
  • Tiffany G Brassard

    I’ve been a mom for 24 years and have spent most of those mother’s days with my family. But in the thick of three toddlers (Irish twins lol) and being a stay at home mom that also kept other kids in our home I did let my husband treat me to a night alone in a hotel room, a few times. One right after a day where I spent one of my son’s tantrums….on the toilet with him on my lap!

    May 2, 2019 at 1:46 pm Reply
    • Erica

      A night alone, at a hotel, has an entirely new meaning once you have kids, doesn’t it? Lying in an oversized, comfy bed, eating, drinking, watching movies, all with some peace and quiet! Happy Mother’s Day indeed!

      May 2, 2019 at 4:21 pm Reply
  • Jami G.

    Thanks for this important reminder! Happy Mother’s Day to you! ❤️

    May 11, 2019 at 7:13 pm Reply
    • Erica

      Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day!

      May 14, 2019 at 3:53 pm Reply

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